Single motherhood with no village

 I am back my friends, and hopefully I can make something of this blog. I had taken some time to navigate life once I became a single mom, which is a very stressful process. balancing work and motherhood when you have no village, well its just does something to you. anyways I'm back and I want to share my experience with others who are either a single mom or entering single motherhood. one thing I will never do is sugar coat anything related to single motherhood, because it's depressing and draining. especially when the other parent is an absent parent and has no care in the world other than for them self. any who, I have been working at the same establishment for going on two years. its been a very good job too me especially for entering the workforce after being a stay at home mom for three years. unfortunately that job will be ending soon, since a better offer has presented itself too me. its a new opportunity for more money and a shift that will allow me to be more present for my children throughout the day. 

This job shall bring amazing first for myself and my children, so we shall see what happens with all of that. also my children have been doing good, we have a really good routine down and so far its been working well for us and no one is losing their minds. this kids are growing so fast I cant hardly believe it some days. I have four more years with my oldest until she is off to college, and my youngest will be entering kindergarten in the fall, I could of had him start this past fall, although I felt he needed the extra year before starting. so instead he has been in a wonderful free head start program. my middle child oh the poor forgotten middle child as she says, she will be entering the 5th grade in the fall and is doing better the second half of the school year vs the first half. she has come a long way and grades have drastically improved. I am super proud of her. now onto the the part of single motherhood in an unstable economy "sigh" its been a struggle. finances could be better and their is hope with this new career coming into play, also child support has been unstable as can be expected, recently I have been receiving payments due to constant complaints to the courts and numerous complaints filed. my plan is to save as much as that income to help stabilize finances a little more. I actually live a very inexpensive life style, I pay my bills and don't haunt the stores spending what I don't have. its crazy how going without has given me a better outlook on attempting to save more money for the future. I have decided that being a single mother will be indefinitely and well as staying a single woman even after motherhood. so attacking my finances head on is a must for a sustainable life for my kids and myself. I will never marry nor live with a man ever again, their is no hate towards men. I just don't want the possibility of a toxic man entering my life again, I have only ever had negative experience with men as partners. also I am raising one boy that one day will be a man, and I refuse to let a toxic man who cant regulate his emotions be an example to my child. 

stay tuned for more posts, I plan this out to be an area for all single mothers to build a community for support. especially us who don't have a village or a shoulder to lean on.